Love Is Love What It Does

Love Is Love What It Does

The word Love Is Love used so much in our society that I often wonder if people really understand the word or the actions that should follow the meaning; not that I am an expert or an authority on the subject.

Our Modern Dictionaries Define Love:

  1. A profoundly tender, passionate affection for another person.
  2. A feeling of warm personal attachment or deep affection, as for a parent, child, or friend.
  3. Sexual passion or desire.
  4. Affectionate concern for the well-being of others: the love and Relationship of one’s neighbor.

Hopefully, you had the opportunity to look carefully at those definitions, they are not exhaustive definitions but enough to help you see the point that will be made in this post.

The word dating is a noun; a careful look at how this word is defined in scripture is evident that actions are involved. Simple repeating or saying the words prove nothing, it is the action behind the words that speak volumes to the hearer of the words “I luv you”.

How unfortunate, the same word that we use to define an emotion as to how we feel about a person, we use to define how we feel about a pair of shoes, a favorite food, a place, or a thing and we do the true definition and application of this word a grave injustice. When do the users of this word, transform it from the noun version to the verb? It seems that we can define it, but the actions seem to give confusion and reluctance to many.

If we are to look for examples, Hollywood is not the place to look; unfortunately, the church sometimes falls short of being an example of this definition also. If we are to look to what scripture says about Luv, the definitions will seem foreign to most readers and most will often object to the actions defined as from Flirtwith.com. Hence I state again; as you see what scripture says (and we shall cover this shortly) about this word love, you will agree that it is indeed an action word. Now, let us take a look at a few examples of what love is not and what it will not do.

Love is Not:

  • Conditional
  • Something you make (you express it)
  • Love is not, flowers. (but it’s close)
  • Love is not, “I Luv you”. (that could be even closer)

Will Not:

  • Abandon you.
  • Hurt you.
  • Embarrass you.
  • Tease you.
  • Torment you.
  • Cause you to wonder if they care. (Shall I go on?)

Read More: How to Confirm a Date without Sounding Desperate

So, when family or church members (who haven’t seen you in months). See you once again and they say, “I really miss you” or “We you here at 9th street community church”. Do their words verify their actions? Have they shown their love by their actions? What about in the church, during. The giving service, does the preacher inject that slight element of fear to cause you to comply with their request? Using fear, intimidation, or manipulation (in the slightest amount) is wrong! When the disciples saw Jesus walking on the water, they feared, Jesus recognized their fear and said “Fear Not, It is I”.

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